The failsafe way to have the dreaded “Where is this going?” chat

My grandparents have been married for 60 years, and started dating because my grandpa wrote my grandma a letter while he was away at military basic training. When he got home, he took her on a date. Then, they were together; the understanding was, We are not seeing other people. How simple and pure!! This sounds like a fairytale, compared to the way things work now.

We are WAY past the idea that anyone could assume anyone else is only dating us, by virtue of us going on a date.

These first-date questions will help you figure out if a second date is in order. date, consider adding the following questions to your dating repertoire. I would ask the question as if you have no opinion one way or the other.

Something scares you. These things might worry you, but something else makes your palms sweat and your pulse hit triple digits: asking someone out on a date. It makes the remaining friendship awkward at best, humiliating at worst. Revealing romantic feelings is a risky business. Many people find a way around the risk. Or at least they think they do. So instead of asking the person on a date, you go on approximations of dates that allow for plausible deniability of all romantic intentions.