12 Rules of Dating Etiquette for the Modern Woman

Sure, good manners and chivalry will never go out of style—but that doesn’t mean we need to subscribe to the same dating rules our parents did. If you want to share a smooch the first night you meet, have at it. Feeling generous? By all means, pay for dinner. Did you two really connect?

If you met through online dating, then take the opportunity to talk about why you’​re both online and what you hope to gain from it. If you met in.

By Lauren Steussy. February 8, pm Updated February 9, pm. Technology and new ideas about sex and gender have dramatically changed the laws of love, from who pays for dinner to how long to wait to call after a date. Apps such as Tinder have spoiled us for choice and made it OK to be dating multiple people at once.

Forget calling someone. Chris Donahue, a year-old writer from Brooklyn, believes men should still foot the bill, at least on the first date. Unfortunately, the rule seems even less clear for those in the LGBT community, says Morningside Heights resident and comedian Stephanie Foltz, who is bisexual. Foltz, 29, says it can be tricky, but that gender norms are still at play. One of the first times Foltz took the initiative and asked a guy out, it went really well.

A new Match. The advice used to be to avoid talk of politics and former relationships on early dates, but now many favor putting it all out there from the beginning. And once people started broaching politics, she says, other taboos, such as keeping past relationships to yourself, began to get ditched too. It saves you time figuring out if this is the right person.